*Be sure to read all the way to the end to get my FREE printable and a simple plan.
It became harder and harder to get them to allow us to come to their home and mom NEVER came to ours (dad sometimes would stop by to drop something off but he did not stay long.) Simply put, we were stupid. We weren’t getting the signs that something was seriously wrong. Well, much too late, we learned that my mom’s health had declined and she had become completely incontinent. They had gone into hiding.
Why didn’t they tell us? I think it was partially due to who they were. They were part of the “Greatest Generation On Earth.” Their generation fought in World War II. Their generation sacrificed for everybody else. But they also were raised to be very private. Some things weren’t “nice” to talk about and so they did not. They covered up.
When I look at everything that is available to help people with incontinence, now, oh how I wish they could have had it then! Mom would have had more years of freedom using Tena. Its design gives the wearer confidence that they are protected from the Unexpected Leak™. They can continue to go places and do the things they love.
And this new Tena® Overnight Underwear would have been perfect for her. It isn’t a diaper. It is protective underwear designed to be comfortable, super absorbent and it pulls on. Women can wear it to be confident that leaks won’t upset their night or day. At night, not only will they get a good night’s sleep but so can their spouse. The bedding is less likely to get soiled and personal clean up is so much easier than what my mom and dad were dealing with.
Here are some ways you can “get eyes on” the situation:
1. Bake something for her (or with her)
2. Bring her flowers
3. Call grandma to say “I love you.”
4. Cut her lawn
5. Have her over for dinner
6. Make her a card and bring it to her
7. Scrapbook with her
8. Take her shopping
9. Weed the gardens at her house
10. Do her hair / nails
What else? Got any good ideas?
I made a checklist for you and your children to use. This checklist is a fun way to be sure that you are not letting too much time go by between “grandma visits.” Besides, she misses you and you miss her, too. Keep in touch!